Posted by joe on March 28, 19100 at 16:26:14:
I married a girlfriend from overseas so she could come here and we could supposedly be together(on a K1 visa). I didn't want to really be married.. it was her idea. She applied for job months in advance with this plan in mind. We were married for three months and now she refuses to reconcile. We live in different states. There was no abuse whatsoever. She used the visa to get a job and plans to go home when her work visa expires. She has tried to manipulate me to stay married to her so she can stay and work here longer and figure out if she would like to stay permanently. I have an email stating her desires for this(this is visa fraud, I though). I also have a note and pictures of her that reveal her intimacy with a guy she met at work.
When we were married neither of us told our relatives. She has told some of her friends, and all of the people at ther job know. We live indifferent states. I've told no one yet.
I want an annulment. She wants to fight it cause she could get deported or have difficulty returning. But, it was not a real marriage, only done to get her in the states. I can get close friends to testify that they were never told of the marriage - that it was hidden. I could get siblings to do this as well, but I'd rather they never know.
Since the split I've also found out that she had a sexual realtionship with some one else when we were separated for a two months early in the relationship. She lied about that when I repeatedly asked her about this. If I knew that then, I would have cut off the realtionship, besides never marring her at all.
I'm in california and have filed for an annulment.. What are my chances? I feel as though I've been totally duped. We had a real realtionship, of so I thought, but the marriage was only done to get her here, and was secret to many. Am I just wasting my time pressing for an annulment? Should I just settle for a joint dissolution(her prefernce).
I'm strapped for $ and any advice you could give is appriciated. Thanks Joe